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What Not To Say To Someone With Anxiety

anxiety caution insensitive overthinking relax understanding Jun 25, 2025

Hey friends! 😊

Today, I want to talk about some things you should avoid saying to someone with anxiety. While it's natural to want to help, some statements can be harmful and dismissive of someone's struggles.

Here are six things to avoid saying, along with some supportive alternatives:

  1. "That's not a reason to feel anxious." ❌- This can make someone feel invalidated and unheard. Instead, show empathy by acknowledging their feelings with something like, "I understand why that might be difficult for you."  
  2. "Other people have it way worse, so you shouldn't feel anxious." ❌ - Comparing struggles can be unhelpful and dismissive. Instead, offer support and validation by saying something like, "It's okay to feel anxious, and I'm here to help you through it."  
  3. "What do you really have to be anxious about?" ❌ - Anxiety doesn't always have a logical reason, and questioning it can make someone feel defensive and misunderstood. Instead, offer your ear to listen and support with something like, "I'm here to support you and listen if you want to talk."  
  4. "You're just overthinking it." ❌ - This can feel dismissive and oversimplifies the complexities of anxiety. Instead, offer comfort and reassurance by saying something like, "I'm here to help you work through your thoughts and feelings."   
  5. "You just need to relax." ❌ - This can be perceived as invalidating and imply that someone's anxiety is a choice. Instead, offer support and compassion by saying something like, "I know it's hard, but I believe in you and your ability to overcome this." 
  6. "You're being dramatic." ❌ - This statement can be harmful and make someone feel like they're being overly sensitive or dramatic. Instead, offer validation and understanding by saying something like, "Your feelings are important and valid, and I'm here to support you through them."

Remember, everyone's experience with anxiety is unique, and it's important to approach each individual with care and compassion. By being mindful of what you say, you can help create a supportive and understanding environment for those who are struggling with anxiety. 💛

 

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