From Self-Abandonment
to Self-Loyalty

A 30-Minute Solution Session

What if the relationship pattern hurting you the most is the relationship you’ve learned to have with yourself?

  • You say yes when you want to say no.
  • You ignore what you need because someone else needs something.
  • You question decisions you already knew were right.
  • You stay quiet to keep the peace.
  • You need reassurance before you can trust what you already feel.
  • You set a boundary—and then feel so guilty that you take it back.
  • You accept less than you want because losing someone feels scarier than losing yourself.
  • You make yourself smaller, easier, quieter, more agreeable or less needy to keep people close.

And somewhere along the way...
You learned how to stay connected to everyone except yourself.
Do you recognize yourself here?

This is self-abandonment.

And once you can see the pattern, you can start changing it.

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Knowing the Pattern Isn't the Same as Changing It.

Maybe you already know you're a people-pleaser.

Maybe you've read about anxious attachment.

Maybe everyone keeps telling you to “set boundaries.”

Maybe you know you need to choose yourself.

But what does that actually look like in YOUR life?

That's what we'll figure out together. Side-by-side!

In Just 30 Minutes, We'll Get Specific.

This isn't 30 minutes of generic advice.

Together, we'll identify your individual self-abandonment pattern and create concrete ways to begin interrupting it.

You'll leave understanding:

HOW you abandon yourself.
We'll identify the patterns affecting you most.

WHEN it happens.
We'll uncover the situations, relationships and triggers that pull you away from yourself.

WHY you do it.
We'll look underneath the behavior at what you may be trying to prevent—rejection, conflict, disappointment, guilt, abandonment or something else.

WHAT it's costing you.
Because what protects you from discomfort in the moment may be costing you your peace, confidence, relationships and trust in yourself.

WHAT to do instead.
We'll create realistic, personalized changes you can begin practicing immediately.

Yes, I am Ready To Stop Abandoning Myself

You'll Leave With Your Self Return Plan

By the end of our 30 minutes together, you'll have identified:

Your top self-abandonment patterns
→ The behaviors keeping you disconnected from yourself.

Your Self-Abandonment Loop
→ Trigger → Fear → Self-Abandonment → Short-Term Relief → Long-Term Cost.

Your personal interruption strategies
→ Specific ways to respond differently when the pattern appears.

Your Self-Return Plan
→ A clear plan for moving from automatic self-abandonment toward intentional self-loyalty.

Your first act of Self-Loyalty
→ One concrete change to begin practicing right away.

Create My Self-Return Plan

What Would Change If You Stopped Leaving Yourself?

  • Imagine being able to say no without spending the next three hours feeling guilty.
  • To recognize that someone is disappointed with you—and not immediately abandon your boundary.
  • To trust what you feel without needing five other people to validate it.
  • To communicate what you need instead of hoping someone figures it out.
  • To stop chasing people who consistently make you question your worth.
  • To choose relationships where you can be fully yourself.
  • To make decisions and actually trust the person making them...You.

Self-loyalty doesn't mean choosing yourself instead of loving other people.

It means you finally stop believing that loving someone else requires abandoning yourself.

You Can Keep Understanding The Pattern.
Or You Can Start Changing it.

You don't need another year of saying:

“I know I need better boundaries.”
“I know I shouldn't care what they think.”
“I know this relationship isn't working.”
“I know I need to trust myself.”

Let's turn what you know into something you can actually do.

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HEY, I'M NANCY!

I’m Nancy Chopin, a Licensed Psychotherapist & Relationship Coach (LMFT) with over 17 years of experience, and I’m passionate about helping people understand the patterns that keep them stuck—and how to actually change them.

You already know you need better boundaries. You already know you people-please. You already know you should choose yourself more. But knowing hasn’t stopped you from saying yes when you mean no, questioning your own feelings, or putting someone else’s needs ahead of your own. That’s the part I want to help you change.

My approach is compassionate, direct and practical. Together, we’ll identify where you’re abandoning yourself, what’s driving the pattern, and the small but powerful changes that can help you build something many people have been missing for years:Trust in yourself.

Because healthier relationships aren’t only about finding better people.

They’re also about learning how to stop leaving yourself behind to keep them.

I felt SO seen. I came in thinking I just needed better boundaries and left realizing there was so much more underneath it. Nancy helped me see patterns I’ve been repeating for years. Definitely one of those ‘wow, this explains a lot’ moments.

 - Posted with consent from Carolyn H. 

I wasn’t really sure what to expect from 30 minutes, but I got way more out of this than I thought I would. Nancy picked up on things I hadn’t even realized I was doing and helped me look at a situation completely differently. I left feeling really clear about what I need to change and where to start.

- Posted with consent from Brandon M. 

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From Self-Abandonment to Self-LoyaltyA 30-Minute Solution Session

The Self Abandonment Solution Session

Transform overwhelm into actionable progress with a focused virtual coaching session on Self Abandonment with Nancy Chopin, Licensed Psychotherapist (LMFT) & Relationship Coach. Bring one specific problem & leave with concrete solutions, practical tools, clarity, & a personalized action plan rooted in neuroscience.

$50.00 USD
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After Purchase

You’ll receive a detailed email with everything you need for your Solution Session. Your 30-minute session will take place securely by video (telehealth), and I’ll work with your availability to offer you a session within 30 days of purchase. No complicated process, no wondering what comes next—I make getting started as smooth and easy as possible.

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